You Should Compare Yourself to Other (Hear Me Out)

Summary

• The five people you compare yourself to most have a big impact on your outcomes.
• Compare yourself to those who are better than you to see where you can improve.
• If comparing to those behind you, focus only on areas they excel in to learn from them.
• Never conclude you are good or bad based on comparisons; just use them as learning tools.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a few key strategies to maximize your growth and improve your outcomes.

1. Choose Your Comparisons Wisely: First, identify the five people you compare yourself to the most. Make sure these individuals are doing better than you in areas you want to improve. This way, you can have clear targets and learn effective strategies directly from those excelling beyond your current level.

2. Focus on Learning: When you compare yourself to those ahead of you, look at specific actions and habits they have that you don't. For example, if they’re better at marketing or time management, break down their methods and integrate those practices into your routine.

3. Learn from Everyone: Even when looking at people who might not be ahead of you overall, find specific areas where they excel. If someone behind you is fantastic at social media engagement, analyze their strategy and adapt it to fit your needs.

4. Avoid Self-Judgment: Use these comparisons as learning tools, not as benchmarks for self-worth. Just because someone is ahead of you doesn’t mean you’re failing and someone being behind doesn’t mean you’re superior. Keep the focus on continuous improvement.

5. Join Networks: Get involved in communities, both online and offline, where people are performing at a higher level. This could be industry groups, mastermind sessions, or forums where high-achievers share their insights and strategies.

By applying these strategies, you can effectively leverage comparisons to boost your growth, all while keeping costs and time investment low. Focus on small, actionable steps that align with your goals and continuously seek to learn from the successes of others.

Full Transcript

basically the five people that you compare yourself to not necessarily that you spend the most time with but that who you compare yourself to has the highest predictor of your outcomes the goal is to get around a whole bunch of people who are better than you and the nice thing is that if you're a beginner there's a lot of people better than you comparison is a very useful tool to figure out where you stand and where you can improve and I think that's all it is I always want to compare myself I want to look at other people who are ahead of me and see what they're doing that I'm not doing so I can learn and if someone's behind me I don't really compare much at all cuz like why bother or if they are behind me but they're better at me at something then I want to figure out why they're better than me at that thing the part that gets people in trouble is where they say and therefore I am bad or therefore I am good