You Will Lose People When You Grow
Summary
- I’ve had to distance myself from some people because my goals are very large.
- It’s not that these people are bad or have bad intentions; they just didn’t help me achieve my goals.
- I questioned why I should spend time with people who aren't growing or working towards their goals when I could be with those who are.
- Many people fear losing others when going after their goals, and it's true—you will lose people.
- It's okay to lose people because you'll find better, more aligned individuals along the way.
- At your destination, you will meet people who help you achieve your goals and share your growth mindset.
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How To Take Action
Focus on Your Inner Circle
I would suggest implementing a regular assessment of your current relationships. Look at the people around you and ask if they are helping you move forward towards your goals. If they aren't, consider spending less time with them. This doesn't mean cutting them off entirely, just prioritizing your time with those who support your growth.
Embrace Personal Growth
A good way to start is by identifying your own goals clearly. Write them down and create a plan for how you’re going to achieve them. Knowing what you want helps in identifying who or what is holding you back. When you know your path, it’s easier to find people aligned with your direction.
Surround Yourself with Growth-Minded Individuals
Spend more time with people who share your drive and aspirations. Join local interest groups or online communities focused on your goals. Whether you're interested in business, fitness, or personal development, there are communities that can help you grow.
Don't Fear the Loss, Embrace the Gain
Many people fear losing others when they pursue their goals. Understand that it’s okay to lose people who don’t align with your vision. This makes space for you to meet new people who are on the same path as you. Keep an open mind and be ready to welcome new, more aligned individuals into your life.
Regularly Review and Adjust
Make it a habit to regularly review your progress and the people influencing you. Adjust as needed. This keeps you on track toward your goals and ensures that your circle is always supportive and beneficial.
By focusing on these strategies, you’ll find that your journey towards achieving large goals becomes easier and more fulfilling.
Full Transcript
I've had to shed people from my life because I have these goals that are very large and it's not that they are bad people it's not that they had bad intentions it's that they did not make it easier for me to achieve my goals and if I'm being really transparent it's like why would I take a weekend of my life to spend time with this person who is not growing and not achieving their goals and not putting in the work when there are other people who are a lot of people I think are afraid of achieving their goals because they're like I'm going to lose people you will lose people and it's okay to lose people but you're going to get better people along the way and you're going to find better people at your destination
