You Will Probably Get F**ked Over Again

Summary

• I learned that trusting and investing in people is crucial, even after being betrayed by someone close who I had high hopes for and invested a lot of time into.
• When feeling upset after a betrayal, I realized it's important to weigh the positives against the negatives. If out of 10 people, 7-8 turn out well, it's worth the risk, despite having 2-3 disappointments.
• I decided that I won't let a few bad experiences stop me from trusting others, as the positive outcomes usually outweigh the negatives.
• A key lesson is understanding that feeling betrayed is part of building a strong team, and being open to trust ultimately serves the business better.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest implementing a strategy of trust balanced with caution. If you've been betrayed, think about the bigger picture. Out of the 10 people you trust, if 7 or 8 turn out wonderful, then those odds are pretty good. Remind yourself that the few who disappoint shouldn’t overshadow the positive relationships you build.

A good way of doing this is by setting clear expectations and creating a culture of open communication within your business or personal circle. Make sure everyone knows what’s expected and foster an environment where honesty is encouraged.

Next, start small. Trust people with smaller responsibilities first and gradually increase their roles as they prove themselves dependable. This will help you feel more comfortable investing in someone at a larger scale when the time is right.

Another thing you can do is learn from each betrayal or setback. Ask yourself what signs you might have missed and how you can spot them in the future. This kind of reflection helps you grow stronger and more resilient.

Finally, focus on building a supportive and positive team environment. Invest time in understanding your team’s needs and help them grow. Celebrate not just the victories, but also the learning experiences from failures. This will encourage loyalty and trust, making it more likely you'll have a team you love working with. Remember, trusting people is a risk, but the rewards often outweigh the negatives, leading to personal and professional growth.