You’re Not Going to Change People

Summary

• I've learned from Charlie that in business, it's more efficient to work with people who share your beliefs and values.
• Accept that you're not likely to change someone's core beliefs; instead, seek out those who already align with your thinking.
• Optimize for the path of least resistance rather than trying to constantly persuade others to your way of thinking.
• As I get older, I find it less worthwhile to try changing someone's mind. It's better to connect with someone who already shares your perspective.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest finding your tribe first. Start by spending time to really understand what your beliefs and values are. Then, look for people who think the same way you do. This could be your customers, business partners, or employees.

When you need to make decisions, think about what's the easiest way to move forward. Don't waste time trying to change someone's mind. It's not going to work most of the time.

Instead, use that energy to look for someone who already gets it. This can save you a lot of arguments and stress. It also makes your business run smoother because everyone is on the same page.

For small tasks or decisions, ask yourself, "Is there a simple way?" Choose the simple way whenever you can. Remember, easy is good. It means you can do more in less time.

You can also use social media to find your people. Share your thoughts and values online. The right people will connect with you.

Think about this when you're hiring, too. During interviews, talk about what you believe in. See if the other person agrees. It's not just about skills. It's about finding people who fit your culture.

This is a low-cost way to make sure your business is full of people who help it grow. You're not spending money. You're just choosing wisely.

And if you're into personal growth, apply this to your friends and who you spend time with. Your life gets better when you're around people who lift you up, not those who you always have to convince.

Quotes by Alex Hormozi

"Accept who they are, just find people who already think what you think"

– Alex Hormozi

"He was always optimizing for the path of least resistance"

– Alex Hormozi

"Not trying to over index on his ability to persuade people"

– Alex Hormozi

"When we think about doing business with people"

– Alex Hormozi

"Why bother trying to change this guy's mind"

– Alex Hormozi

Full Transcript

when we think about doing business with people Charlie also talked about how you're not going to change people they already think what they think accept who they are just find people who already think what you think he was always optimizing for the path of least resistance and not trying to over index on his ability to persuade people and I'm guessing in his older age he just stopped trying to be in with why bother trying to change this guy's mind I'll just find this guy who already thinks what I think