You’re Working Yourself Up By Doing This

Summary

• Recognize the power of language and its impact on personal experience.
• Understand that describing emotions with dramatic language can intensify negative feelings.
• Aim to use precise and controlled language to help soothe and stabilize emotions.
• Realize that the words we use can start a feedback loop, amplifying the feelings associated with them.
• Avoid using exaggerated terms like "anxious," "heartbroken," and "disgusted" to prevent exacerbating those emotions.

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How To Take Action

I would suggest starting with the words you use every day. If you're feeling bad, try not to use big, dramatic words to describe it. Instead of saying "I'm heartbroken," you might say "I'm upset." This simple change can stop your feelings from getting even bigger.

When you're talking to friends or working on your business, be careful with your language. Avoid words like "anxious" or "disgusted." Choose words that are not so strong. This can help calm your emotions and keep you steady.

Remember, the words we pick can make a feeling grow. If you say you're feeling something in a big way, it can actually make you feel it more. Keep your words cool and controlled to help yourself stay calm.

Here's what you can do:

• When you're upset, think about what you say. Try to pick words that don't make your feelings even stronger.
• If you're stressed, take a deep breath and use calm words to describe your feeling.
• Practice talking about your problems using words that don't make things sound worse than they are.

Changing how you talk about your feelings can really help. It can make tough things feel a little easier. Give it a try, and see how it helps your mood and how you deal with problems!

Quotes by Leila Hormozi

"Most people work themselves up with the language they use about the difficulty they're going through"

– Leila Hormozi

"If you knew how powerful language was, you would know why I'm not up playing it"

– Leila Hormozi

"People think I have a reaction in my body, a feeling, and then I say these words"

– Leila Hormozi

"The loop becomes the opposite if you use these words to describe how you're feeling, you create more of it"

– Leila Hormozi

"Being precise with our language will help us soothe ourselves much more than working ourselves up with our language"

– Leila Hormozi

Full Transcript

most people work themselves up with the language they use about the difficulty they're going through I've had people be like tell me how you really feel like don't downplay it and I'm like if you knew how powerful language was you would know why I'm not up playing it because it makes it feel worse so people think I have a reaction in my body a feeling and then I say these words but it can also eventually the loop becomes the opposite if you use these words to describe how you're feeling you create more of it and so a lot of people say I'm so anxious I'm heartbroken I'm disgusted I feel like I'm going to die and they make themselves feel worse by speaking in that way I think that being precise with our language will help us sooth ourselves much more than working ourselves up with our language